We are all grown ups. Knowing that there is no Right or Wrong in every decision you make as, it is YOUR decision. You are the only person knowing whether its a correct thing to do.
Put yourself in the poor fiance's shoes, what will she feel if she found out this.. Fling that involves you? It couldn't possibly be grateful or joy. Undoubtedly, he's an asshole in disguise of prince charming meat suit.
For a periodical moment of 'fling', or 'romance' or as you call it - love at first sight, don't get me wrong. I truly believe in love at first sight - but your feelings in this situation is not untimely, its pretty selfish.
Why would you want to get involved in this sort of connection? It bothers me because you were okay-ing for it to happen. It was a fling, but you enabled his irrational untimely encounter into a love at first sight. He was irrational, but you enabled him, giving him signs that you are actually indulging in this 'fling' too.
I'm not sure what is your ultimate intention / purposes in this whole scenario, it's your decision to make whether to hit the delete button, or making him yours, or keep it in the vague state. I have no authority to tell you which road to take. Just remember, he's an ass. Married ass.
At least, it is unacceptable for me that you have enabled him for the second and third time. As a friend, i can only advise you on which road not to take; As a human being, this is something I despises in a person. I couldn't possibly say it out loud to your face as writing it out offends me. First mistake, fine.. but second third and forth?
I would like to not to discuss this further. If you feel like sharing, I'll just listen. Because, I do not know where will this lead to, and I treasure our friendship - and this genre of discussion puts me in the situation where, it might jeopardize our friendship.
I'm thankful that you felt compelled to tell me the details, and I have done what I can do to help. No matter how many hours you talked to me on the phone telling me that you are miserable, reassuring that there was nothing going on etc, it all laid waste when you replied to his invitation. Again, he's an ass, married.
I will still be here to listen, but - the comments will be the same as the first advise I gave.
If any of the words above have offended you somewhere, Im sorry. But, Im writing this because I treasure our friendship, and I wouldn't want as ass who gave you a moment of weak knee to ruin it.
Period.
10.05.2012
8.25.2012
A gentle reminder from a friend.
That, I have not been blogging since forever.. Not THAT long, but I might have forgotten what it feels like scribbling through lines figuring myself out.
Have been taking some babysteps recently. *chuckles* Went clubbing with besties and found out that Im either with dual personality, or possessed. *touch wood* ahahah... I have made some meaningless reassurance before we hit the club that I believed in. (past tense). Like :-
' I don't scream in public places.'
Which is pretty true because.. I end up shrieking instead, whenever the DJ spins songs that I've heard before. Shriek to the top of my lungs especially when the DJ spun 'Payphone'. (Don't judge)
And, way before this -
' I don't think I'll dance.'
Imagine my hair, totally soaked in mixers spilled on the bar top right where we were standing- just across the dance floor. To be frank, even I was in shock myself. *jaw-drops*
' I'll just drink and enjoy the music.'
After 3 rounds of Glenmorangie, some random club mix song kick-started the 'inner' me, and there I go. *blush*
And the funny thing is... I started making stupid suggestions, which I can still recall after so many days... Then, I literally kept all wits and words in me, and have been conversing in vowels instead... *shock*
Clinking my glass, mending the drinks, dancing, hands up in the air... *fuhhh*
Like the song sings - dance like there's no tomorrow. I never knew I can get so hyped over club hits so intensely because I've always been a 30 seconds to Mars or David Cook person.
Met some really WILD clubbers, girls mostly, share the spot - drink booze, dance to tunes and break some laughters. It was fun!!
The thing I find hilarious was, when momma-clubber-friend tried to chill me down, from all the disbelievement she had in me - she sorta succeed for like, 1/2 minute? And failed miserably. *giggles*
Thats the problem with club-V? Inability to control? She said it's just me. *roll-eyes*
Overall, it was an interesting experience... Amazed though, not sure whether it's a positive or not-so-good thing. The booze, the feeling, the peeps I hang with... They are awesome, and made me feel safe to behave like what I did. *grins*
Have a happy weekend people. *mucho-lovs*
p.s. I'm stuck with this Titanium song.. STILL!! After so many days... *sigh*
Have been taking some babysteps recently. *chuckles* Went clubbing with besties and found out that Im either with dual personality, or possessed. *touch wood* ahahah... I have made some meaningless reassurance before we hit the club that I believed in. (past tense). Like :-
' I don't scream in public places.'
Which is pretty true because.. I end up shrieking instead, whenever the DJ spins songs that I've heard before. Shriek to the top of my lungs especially when the DJ spun 'Payphone'. (Don't judge)
And, way before this -
' I don't think I'll dance.'
Imagine my hair, totally soaked in mixers spilled on the bar top right where we were standing- just across the dance floor. To be frank, even I was in shock myself. *jaw-drops*
' I'll just drink and enjoy the music.'
After 3 rounds of Glenmorangie, some random club mix song kick-started the 'inner' me, and there I go. *blush*
And the funny thing is... I started making stupid suggestions, which I can still recall after so many days... Then, I literally kept all wits and words in me, and have been conversing in vowels instead... *shock*
Clinking my glass, mending the drinks, dancing, hands up in the air... *fuhhh*
Like the song sings - dance like there's no tomorrow. I never knew I can get so hyped over club hits so intensely because I've always been a 30 seconds to Mars or David Cook person.
Met some really WILD clubbers, girls mostly, share the spot - drink booze, dance to tunes and break some laughters. It was fun!!
The thing I find hilarious was, when momma-clubber-friend tried to chill me down, from all the disbelievement she had in me - she sorta succeed for like, 1/2 minute? And failed miserably. *giggles*
Thats the problem with club-V? Inability to control? She said it's just me. *roll-eyes*
Overall, it was an interesting experience... Amazed though, not sure whether it's a positive or not-so-good thing. The booze, the feeling, the peeps I hang with... They are awesome, and made me feel safe to behave like what I did. *grins*
Have a happy weekend people. *mucho-lovs*
p.s. I'm stuck with this Titanium song.. STILL!! After so many days... *sigh*
6.09.2012
Friends with Benefits
Yes, I am talking about that movie where hot Mila Kunis meets super hot Justin Timberlake. Its interesting how relationship gets so.. simple. Like the other one, No Strings Attached.
As the matter of fact, it has become a sport, where it doesn't involve any emotional attachments. Just pure sweating and enjoying the moment. When you wake up, its either you walk out of the door and continue your life, or have a breakfast and hangout some other time.
Girls, or females seems to be on the lower hand in this situation. Its a two way argument- especially in our society. If you both have enjoyed the sex, nobody is losing anything i guess.
We all agree that females are more sensible in the emotion department, just make sure you dont fall for your 'sport' partner, or else you'll end up calling the radio station asking for help and i'd be stuck in the traffic listening to my mom's lecture about 'girls nowadays..' (its my friend whose stuck in her mom's nagging)
But yet, i understand that this is a religious matter to, where most of the teachings wants us to avoid sex before marriage or, resist the temptation of the 7 sins. Some even think, this is an influence from tv or movie shows. Devillish, and lustful it is.
But again, there are still underage teen got knocked up even if they go to church every weekend.
I dont intend to make it a religion thing, its pure science. Girls want sex as bad as guys, and for me- its okay to commit into a relationship and have a healthy sex life of yourself as long as you are responsible of your property - your body.
And for friends with benefit, its a similar concept where, you'll need extra control with your heart. Thats all.
As the matter of fact, it has become a sport, where it doesn't involve any emotional attachments. Just pure sweating and enjoying the moment. When you wake up, its either you walk out of the door and continue your life, or have a breakfast and hangout some other time.
Girls, or females seems to be on the lower hand in this situation. Its a two way argument- especially in our society. If you both have enjoyed the sex, nobody is losing anything i guess.
We all agree that females are more sensible in the emotion department, just make sure you dont fall for your 'sport' partner, or else you'll end up calling the radio station asking for help and i'd be stuck in the traffic listening to my mom's lecture about 'girls nowadays..' (its my friend whose stuck in her mom's nagging)
But yet, i understand that this is a religious matter to, where most of the teachings wants us to avoid sex before marriage or, resist the temptation of the 7 sins. Some even think, this is an influence from tv or movie shows. Devillish, and lustful it is.
But again, there are still underage teen got knocked up even if they go to church every weekend.
I dont intend to make it a religion thing, its pure science. Girls want sex as bad as guys, and for me- its okay to commit into a relationship and have a healthy sex life of yourself as long as you are responsible of your property - your body.
And for friends with benefit, its a similar concept where, you'll need extra control with your heart. Thats all.
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